Total Rock Star blog
Are you going through a personal or professional crisis? Are you stuck in a rut and ready to try something new? Do you long to lead a more creative, meaningful life?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, you probably suffer from “Suppressed Superpower Syndrome.” I’m here to help you to take your power back!
After teaching creativity workshops for 20 years, I know for certain that you were born with a unique gift that no one else in the world can express like you. Your innate skills and passions are your superpowers. When you dance to your own music, you naturally develop these intrinsic talents and excel in work and life. You are a total rock star.
But when you’re forced to conform to someone else’s idea of who you should be, it throws off your groove.
Using psychology, music, and workshop success stories, I will help you shake up your self-limiting beliefs, discover your unique talents and skills, build the courage to go after your dreams, persist through setbacks, and rock your life.
Yeah, it’s a big promise, I know, but I think we can do it! Don’t you?
I have a good track record.
From Professor to Rock Star
Years ago when I was a psychology professor, I felt deeply empty, despite my success. I loved my students but the truth was, I wanted to sing in a rock-n-roll band.
“Ridiculous,” a voice that sounded a lot like my mother’s screamed inside my head. For one, it would mean I had wasted four years at Princeton getting my Ph.D. in psychology. For another, I was too old. How could I change now, wasn’t it too late?
I kept thinking about how happy my students were whenever I gave them permission to be their true selves. Within a year, I left my solid teaching position to follow my dream to be a rock star! My songs have been on the charts, and I’ve helped thousands of participants find their superpowers and rock their lives too.
Now that’s my superpower. What’s yours? Not sure? That’s OK – that’s what this blog is for!
To answer your calling, honor what makes you different from others. Yes, it can be scary to express your true self, but it’s the best way to create a successful meaningful life, and it’s easier to do than you think.
A few years ago a friend and I went to the Mojave Desert. We were astonished to find all these wild-looking Joshua trees around us. Their branches were bent in a million different directions. After inspecting several of them closely, my traveling companion and I came to the conclusion that no two were...
Many of us don’t “hear” our callings because our true talents and abilities come so naturally to us.
While I was writing this blog, I took a break to get a bagel at a local coffee shop. As the guy behind the counter was ringing me up, one of his coworkers was trying to solve a crossword puzzle and called out, “Hey Jeff, what’s a four letter word for ‘harvest?’” Without missing a beat, Jeff responded, “Reap.” I was astonished. He was a natural. It’s often difficult to discover what we’re...
The last few blogs have explored how we’ve been conditioned to be like everyone else and play roles that don’t necessarily suit us. Several of you have asked, “Well, how do I find my true calling then, Michelle?” The answer is simple. Figure out what makes your heart sing.
It’s difficult for many of us to believe we are unique—that we have our own distinct paths in life—because we’re so used to thinking alike.
The next seven blogs will ask thought-provoking questions that will help you discern your special qualities...
Halloween is right around the corner. Sure, you could go as the usual suspects—pirates and vampires—but why not do something different this year? Instead of disguising yourself as someone else, grab the opportunity to break out of a worn-out role and express your true self.
Let’s be honest. Most of us don’t answer our true callings and go after our heartfelt dreams because we’re scared. What if we crash and burn? And by that I mean, we lose all our friends, our money runs out and we end up homeless, unable...
In the last few blogs, we’ve investigated how playing a limiting role can hold you back from shining as your authentic self. Your true calling is often hard to hear because it conflicts with who you think you are.
In “The Wizard of Oz,” Dorothy described herself as “small and meek.” Because of that belief, she didn’t realize she had the power to go home all along after landing in colorful Oz.
Similarly Luke was already a “Skywalker” in the original “Star Wars” movie, but he didn’t know he could...
Sometimes playing an old ill-fitting role can keep you from finding your true vocation.
“Jeremy,” a new coaching client, was clearly miserable being a therapist. Even though his practice was growing, he was deeply tired of it. He complained that his clients weren’t making that much progress in their lives. What was worse, he was starting not to care. I could see the exhaustion in his eyes. He’d only been doing it for three years.
I soon learned that Jeremy’s parents had argued often when he was a boy, and he’d...
Do you ever wonder why you don’t seem to reach your goals, let alone your dreams? As we discussed last week, you could be playing an old family role that holds you back without even knowing it!
I encountered this sort of block in the first creativity workshop I ever taught. Bill was a top notch journalist who wanted to become a fiction writer. He already wrote for a living, so you’d think it would be easy for him to write fiction, but it wasn’t. He struggled. The words just wouldn’t come. The cause of the problem eluded me...
Many of us can’t hear our true calling—and, hence, be our real selves—because of old family dynamics and belief systems. In my workshops, I’ve found that the main reason people don’t get what they want in life is because they’re still acting out some worn-out family role that doesn’t fit who they truly are.
For example, when I was 13 years old I was fascinated by “Debby” and “Deenie,” identical twins in my junior high school. They had long blond hair, tanned athletic bodies, and the whitest teeth I’d...
When the call to be your true self begins, it’s not like a big arrow descends from the sky with a voice bellowing: “Go this way my child, all is well.” Instead, you often feel grumpy, frustrated, empty, and ready to pull your hair out.
Take “Anne,” for example, a small quiet woman who used to drag herself into my weekly Reinventing Yourself workshop after spending all day at a job she hated. One night she raised her hand to speak. “Do you know why I became a dental hygienist?” Anne asked. I shook...
Many of us don’t answer our true callings because we’re afraid people will find out how odd or strange we are. But our little eccentricities often turn out to be our greatest strengths. Yes, it’s good to be quirky—I approve! Are you ready to embrace your inner weirdo?
The first time “Gina” walked into my workshop, she seemed like she was 12 years old. She wore knee-socks and a dress at least two sizes too big for her. It turns out Gina was 20 years old. Her job as a receptionist bored her to tears. She took my...