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Be Your Own Superhero

 

Welcome to my blog!

 

It’s pretty awesome, I know. But enough chitchat. We’re on a mission!

If you are experiencing a personal or professional crisis, deciding where to go next in life, feeling stuck, or simply want to be more creative, this blog’s for you.

Feeling Stuck - Shake it Up BlogYou were born with a unique creative gift that no one else in the world can express like you. Your innate skills and passions are your superpowers. But because you’ve been pressured to conform to someone else’s idea of who you should be, you probably suffer from “Suppressed Superpower Syndrome.” I’m here to help you take your power back.

Using psychology, music, and workshop success stories, I will help you shake up your self-limiting beliefs, discover your unique talents and skills, build the courage to go after your dreams, persist through setbacks, and reach your full creative potential in work and life.

Yeah, it’s a big promise, I know, but I think we can do it! Don’t you?

I have a good track record. And my “Be Your Own Superhero” blog was chosen by Lifehack as One of 15 Brilliant Website That Will Inspire And Change Your Life.

 

Why I Know What I’m “Talking” About

 

Feeling Stuck - Shake it Up BlogYears ago when I was a psychology professor, I felt deeply empty, despite my success. I loved my students but the truth was, I wanted to sing rock-n-roll.

“Ridiculous,” a voice that sounded a lot like my mother’s screamed inside my head. For one, it would mean I had wasted four years at Princeton getting my PhD in psychology. For another, I was too old. How could I change now, wasn’t it too late?

I kept thinking about how happy my students were whenever I gave them permission to be their true selves. Within a year, I left my solid teaching position to follow my dream to be a rock star! My songs have been on the charts, and I’ve led creativity workshops for 20 years and helped thousands of participants realize their dreams, too.

Now that’s my superpower. What’s yours? Not sure? That’s OK – that’s what this blog is for!

Are you ready to be your own superhero? Listen to this song to get pumped up for the challenge!

 

If you’d like to read my latest blogs, please check out my articles on Lifehack.

 

 

3 Tips for a Stress Free Thanksgiving

Posted by on November 25, 2014 in Creativity | 10 comments

3 Tips for a Stress Free Thanksgiving

According to Charles Whitfield, author of “Healing the Child Within,” 80 to 95% of us grew up in dysfunctional families. Don’t worry, at least you know you’re not alone! You also have options. Thanksgiving can be a truly joyful time of year, but it can also be stressful for those of us with families who push our buttons. Many blogs offer tips for how to make room for extra food in the fridge and not undercook the turkey to curb anxiety. Instead here are three creative ways to reduce stress and increase well-being by handling...

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Your True Calling is Right in Front of You

Posted by on March 5, 2014 in True Self | 10 comments

Your True Calling is Right in Front of You

Are you feeling stuck or unsure of what to do next with your life? Odds are your true calling is right in front of you but you miss it because you’re looking for it in the wrong place. All you need to do to “see” it clearly is change your perspective. This was certainly true for “Maria,” a woman in her late 40s who took one of my first creativity workshops. Frankly, Maria scared the bejesus out of me. She stood about six feet tall, had fiery red hair, and seemed to be very angry about something. I noticed right...

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Valentine’s Day Tip: How Do You Find True Love?

Posted by on February 11, 2014 in True Self | 16 comments

Valentine’s Day Tip: How Do You Find True Love?

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. Many people remain single, some of us settle for less, and a few “lucky” folks thrive in good relationships. What makes the difference? In my experience, true love comes knocking at your door when you stop looking for it outside of yourself, and focus on accepting yourself for who you are—warts and all—instead. Do you remember Gina from our “Embrace Your Inner Weirdo” blog? She was the frustrated receptionist who collected stuffed animals and watched “Beauty and the...

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When do You Ditch Your Job to Follow Your Dreams?

Posted by on January 30, 2014 in True Self | 15 comments

When do You Ditch Your Job to Follow Your Dreams?

How do you know when the time is right to follow your dreams and ditch your day job? Our last blog discussed how it’s possible to stay employed AND find joy and contentment in your after-hour activities, and pursue your passions full-time once you retire. But sometimes you need to leap into the unknown to follow your heart. Jack Topalian is a perfect role model. I  met him while I was taking acting classes with the renowned Kay Kostopoulos and Marty Pistone at Stanford University. I knew there was something different about Jack right...

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Are You Too Scared to Follow Your True Calling?

Posted by on January 9, 2014 in True Self | 9 comments

Are You Too Scared to Follow Your True Calling?

Even though the goal of this blog series is to help you find your true calling, the truth is that most people are too afraid to change. They have mouths to feed, bills to pay, and fear that if they follow their dreams, someone will get hurt.  The old saying “leap and the net shall appear” does not comfort them. Because they hesitate to plunge into the unknown, they stay stuck.  Can you relate? Dan was such a case.  A dignified-looking attorney, he came to my workshop because he felt something was missing from his life.  He dearly loved...

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10 Tips to Reach Your Dreams in 2014

Posted by on December 31, 2013 in True Self | 16 comments

10 Tips to Reach Your Dreams in 2014

How to Reach Your Dreams Every year millions of us pull our collective hair out by making New Year’s Resolutions we don’t keep, as is evidenced by all the near-empty gyms in March. Rather than make goals, why not develop a good habit to help you reach your dreams? Any one of these can change your life. 1. Accept yourself for who you are, warts and all.  Yes, I know I ended my Christmas blog with this thought, but it’s important enough to start with it again. Those little things you want to improve about yourself tend to...

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The Secret to Staying Sane this Christmas (Around Our Crazy Families)

Posted by on December 19, 2013 in True Self | 10 comments

The Secret to Staying Sane this Christmas (Around Our Crazy Families)

The Christmas season can be a truly joyful time of year, but it can also be stressful for those of us spending the holidays with families who push our buttons.   According to Charles Whitfield, author of “Healing the Child Within,” 80 to 95% of us grew up in dysfunctional families. Well, pour yourself some eggnog, snuggle up under a warm comforter, and read on to learn how to keep from going crazy this Christmas. Do you remember the island of misfit toys in the TV special “Rudolf the Red-Nosed Reindeer?” This sanctuary of unwanted...

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True Calling Tip: What Makes Time Disappear?

Posted by on December 4, 2013 in True Self | 8 comments

True Calling Tip: What Makes Time Disappear?

How do you know when you’re following your true calling?  Time disappears. No drugs necessary!  My True Calling Tip Whenever I write a song, I close myself in my studio, pick up my guitar, and emerge several hours later feeling content and spaced-out.  Typically, I don’t know what I did during that time—it’s just a glorious waking dream—but I usually have a recorder handy to capture it for me.  A pleasing side effect of this experience is that I often write enough coherent pieces of music to put a song together later.  But,...

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Why I’m Still Grateful When Life Sucks

Posted by on November 20, 2013 in True Self | 5 comments

Why I’m Still Grateful When Life Sucks

Thanksgiving can be a tricky holiday for those of us who are going through tough times. It’s hard to muster up feelings of appreciation when there doesn’t seem much to be grateful for. My dad died in May, and a few weeks later my beloved cat Izzy was diagnosed with stage 3 kidney disease.  We lost his brother Ollie to cancer the year before.  I was devastated.  How much back-to-back loss can one woman take?  And yet, it’s one of the best things that ever happened to me. Growing up I had to fend for myself most of the...

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True Calling Tip: What Fills You with Passion?

Posted by on November 19, 2013 in True Self | 6 comments

True Calling Tip: What Fills You with Passion?

One of the easiest ways to find your true calling is to do things that fill you with passion.  Not your parents, or your teachers, or your friends—but you.  It may take some time to discover what truly excites you… so don’t give up too soon. Perhaps you’ve never engaged in your true passion before, or only tried it once.  Be open to the possibilities, and for goodness’ sake, don’t settle for less.  Jane’s True Calling Tip For example, “Jane” was a successful Fortune 500 executive with a PhD from...

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