Happy Valentine’s Day! Of all of the days of the year, this is the best one to take a moment to love yourself. Many people are single, some of us settled for less, and a few “lucky” folks thrive in good relationships. What makes the difference? In my experience, true love comes knocking at your door when you stop looking for it outside of yourself, and focus on accepting yourself for who you are.  For example, Gina was a frustrated...

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Visualization works best when you create a detailed picture of what you want in your mind and envision each step toward getting that end goal. The more senses you bring to it, the better. Swimmer Michael Phelps, for example, used guided imagery to visualize successful races at the Olympics and won 18 gold medals. It’s as if you can trick your mind into believing that what you want is real and, then poof, it happens. However, there is a...

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Have you tried creating a magic wish list yet? One of the most effective ways to become the person you were born to be is to set intentions that expand who you currently are and be willing to go out of your comfort zone. I dreamed of being a rock star while I was still an assistant professor. I experimented with writing songs, doing open mics, and fronting a band. Eventually, I got a record deal. You can’t just sit on your couch and...

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In my previous blog, I gave you clues for creating a powerful wish list based on the person you were born to be. Here is the first of many magic tips for turning your wishes into reality. The first time I made a wish list was 20 years ago and under dire circumstances. My marriage had fallen apart in South Africa where I’d been touring to support my debut CD, and I returned to California alone with a sick cat, no place to live, and no...

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It’s that time of year when many of us begin making big goals for the coming new year. But a whopping 80% of us give up on our resolutions by February! So why even try? The problem is that we often set intentions that don’t align with what we’re meant to do in the world. So, they fizzle out. Each of us is born with a unique purpose and a special set of gifts. But most of us stuff them down in the unconscious to fit in with...

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The holidays can be a tough time for those of us who are grieving the loss of loved ones, feeling financially stressed, or dealing with dysfunctional families. To spread a little joy, I sang some Christmas carols recently at a local community center and noticed that “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer” stood out. Not only did the audience know all the words by heart, but everyone seemed genuinely happy that Rudolph got to lead...

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