Total Rock Star blog
Are you going through a personal or professional crisis? Are you stuck in a rut and ready to try something new? Do you long to lead a more creative, meaningful life?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, you probably suffer from “Suppressed Superpower Syndrome.” I’m here to help you to take your power back!
After teaching creativity workshops for 20 years, I know for certain that you were born with a unique gift that no one else in the world can express like you. Your innate skills and passions are your superpowers. When you dance to your own music, you naturally develop these intrinsic talents and excel in work and life. You are a total rock star.
But when you’re forced to conform to someone else’s idea of who you should be, it throws off your groove.
Using psychology, music, and workshop success stories, I will help you shake up your self-limiting beliefs, discover your unique talents and skills, build the courage to go after your dreams, persist through setbacks, and rock your life.
Yeah, it’s a big promise, I know, but I think we can do it! Don’t you?
I have a good track record.
From Professor to Rock Star
Years ago when I was a psychology professor, I felt deeply empty, despite my success. I loved my students but the truth was, I wanted to sing in a rock-n-roll band.
“Ridiculous,” a voice that sounded a lot like my mother’s screamed inside my head. For one, it would mean I had wasted four years at Princeton getting my PhD in psychology. For another, I was too old. How could I change now, wasn’t it too late?
I kept thinking about how happy my students were whenever I gave them permission to be their true selves. Within a year, I left my solid teaching position to follow my dream to be a rock star! My songs have been on the charts, and I’ve helped thousands of participants find their superpowers and rock their lives too.
Now that’s my superpower. What’s yours? Not sure? That’s OK – that’s what this blog is for!
I also have articles on finding your superpower and rocking your life on Lifehack.
How to Reach Your Dreams
Every year millions of us pull our collective hair out by making New Year’s Resolutions we don’t keep, as is evidenced by all the near-empty gyms in March. Rather than make goals, why not develop a good habit to help you reach your dreams? Any one of these can change your life.
1. Accept yourself for who you are, warts and all. Yes, I know I ended my Christmas blog with this thought, but it’s important enough to start with it again. Those little things you want to improve about yourself tend to...
The Christmas season can be a truly joyful time of year, but it can also be stressful for those of us spending the holidays with families who push our buttons.
According to Charles Whitfield, author of “Healing the Child Within,” 80 to 95% of us grew up in dysfunctional families. Well, pour yourself some eggnog, snuggle up under a warm comforter, and read on to learn how to keep from going crazy this Christmas.
Do you remember the island of misfit toys in the TV special “Rudolf the Red-Nosed Reindeer?” This sanctuary of unwanted...
How do you know when you’re following your true calling? Time disappears. No drugs necessary!
My True Calling Tip
Whenever I write a song, I close myself in my studio, pick up my guitar, and emerge several hours later feeling content and spaced-out. Typically, I don’t know what I did during that time—it’s just a glorious waking dream—but I usually have a recorder handy to capture it for me. A pleasing side effect of this experience is that I often write enough coherent pieces of music to put a song together later. But,...
Thanksgiving can be a tricky holiday for those of us who are going through tough times. It’s hard to muster up feelings of appreciation when there doesn’t seem much to be grateful for.
My dad died in May, and a few weeks later my beloved cat Izzy was diagnosed with stage 3 kidney disease. We lost his brother Ollie to cancer the year before. I was devastated. How much back-to-back loss can one woman take? And yet, it’s one of the best things that ever happened to me.
Growing up I had to fend for myself most of the...
One of the easiest ways to find your true calling is to do things that fill you with passion. Not your parents, or your teachers, or your friends—but you. It may take some time to discover what truly excites you… so don’t give up too soon. Perhaps you’ve never engaged in your true passion before, or only tried it once. Be open to the possibilities, and for goodness’ sake, don’t settle for less.
Jane’s True Calling Tip
For example, “Jane” was a successful Fortune 500 executive with a PhD from...
To answer your calling, honor what makes you different from others. Yes, it can be scary to express your true self, but it’s the best way to create a successful meaningful life, and it’s easier to do than you think.
A few years ago a friend and I went to the Mojave Desert. We were astonished to find all these wild-looking Joshua trees around us. Their branches were bent in a million different directions. After inspecting several of them closely, my traveling companion and I came to the conclusion that no two were...
Many of us don’t “hear” our callings because our true talents and abilities come so naturally to us.
While I was writing this blog, I took a break to get a bagel at a local coffee shop. As the guy behind the counter was ringing me up, one of his coworkers was trying to solve a crossword puzzle and called out, “Hey Jeff, what’s a four letter word for ‘harvest?’” Without missing a beat, Jeff responded, “Reap.” I was astonished. He was a natural. It’s often difficult to discover what we’re...
The last few blogs have explored how we’ve been conditioned to be like everyone else and play roles that don’t necessarily suit us. Several of you have asked, “Well, how do I find my true calling then, Michelle?” The answer is simple. Figure out what makes your heart sing.
It’s difficult for many of us to believe we are unique—that we have our own distinct paths in life—because we’re so used to thinking alike.
The next seven blogs will ask thought-provoking questions that will help you discern your special qualities...
Halloween is right around the corner. Sure, you could go as the usual suspects—pirates and vampires—but why not do something different this year? Instead of disguising yourself as someone else, grab the opportunity to break out of a worn-out role and express your true self.
Let’s be honest. Most of us don’t answer our true callings and go after our heartfelt dreams because we’re scared. What if we crash and burn? And by that I mean, we lose all our friends, our money runs out and we end up homeless, unable...
In the last few blogs, we’ve investigated how playing a limiting role can hold you back from shining as your authentic self. Your true calling is often hard to hear because it conflicts with who you think you are.
In “The Wizard of Oz,” Dorothy described herself as “small and meek.” Because of that belief, she didn’t realize she had the power to go home all along after landing in colorful Oz.
Similarly Luke was already a “Skywalker” in the original “Star Wars” movie, but he didn’t know he could...