Be Your Own Superhero blog

Be Your Own Superhero

 

Welcome to my blog!

 

It’s pretty awesome, I know. But enough chitchat. We’re on a mission!

If you are experiencing a personal or professional crisis, deciding where to go next in life, feeling stuck, or simply want to be more creative, this blog’s for you.

Feeling Stuck - Shake it Up BlogYou were born with a unique creative gift that no one else in the world can express like you. Your innate skills and passions are your superpowers. But because you’ve been pressured to conform to someone else’s idea of who you should be, you probably suffer from “Suppressed Superpower Syndrome.” I’m here to help you take your power back.

Using psychology, music, and workshop success stories, I will help you shake up your self-limiting beliefs, discover your unique talents and skills, build the courage to go after your dreams, persist through setbacks, and reach your full creative potential in work and life.

Yeah, it’s a big promise, I know, but I think we can do it! Don’t you?

I have a good track record. And my “Be Your Own Superhero” blog was chosen by Lifehack as One of 15 Brilliant Website That Will Inspire And Change Your Life.

 

Why I Know What I’m “Talking” About

 

Feeling Stuck - Shake it Up BlogYears ago when I was a psychology professor, I felt deeply empty, despite my success. I loved my students but the truth was, I wanted to sing rock-n-roll.

“Ridiculous,” a voice that sounded a lot like my mother’s screamed inside my head. For one, it would mean I had wasted four years at Princeton getting my PhD in psychology. For another, I was too old. How could I change now, wasn’t it too late?

I kept thinking about how happy my students were whenever I gave them permission to be their true selves. Within a year, I left my solid teaching position to follow my dream to be a rock star! My songs have been on the charts, and I’ve led creativity workshops for 20 years and helped thousands of participants realize their dreams, too.

Now that’s my superpower. What’s yours? Not sure? That’s OK – that’s what this blog is for!

Are you ready to be your own superhero? Listen to this song to get pumped up for the challenge!

 

Why I’m Still Grateful When Life Sucks

Posted by on November 20, 2013 in True Self | 5 comments

Why I’m Still Grateful When Life Sucks

Thanksgiving can be a tricky holiday for those of us who are going through tough times. It’s hard to muster up feelings of appreciation when there doesn’t seem much to be grateful for. My dad died in May, and a few weeks later my beloved cat Izzy was diagnosed with stage 3 kidney disease.  We lost his brother Ollie to cancer the year before.  I was devastated.  How much back-to-back loss can one woman take?  And yet, it’s one of the best things that ever happened to me. Growing up I had to fend for myself most of the...

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True Calling Tip: What Fills You with Passion?

Posted by on November 19, 2013 in True Self | 6 comments

True Calling Tip: What Fills You with Passion?

One of the easiest ways to find your true calling is to do things that fill you with passion.  Not your parents, or your teachers, or your friends—but you.  It may take some time to discover what truly excites you… so don’t give up too soon. Perhaps you’ve never engaged in your true passion before, or only tried it once.  Be open to the possibilities, and for goodness’ sake, don’t settle for less.  Jane’s True Calling Tip For example, “Jane” was a successful Fortune 500 executive with a PhD from...

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True Calling Tip: What Makes You Unique?

Posted by on November 13, 2013 in True Self | 6 comments

True Calling Tip: What Makes You Unique?

To answer your calling, honor what makes you different from others.  Yes, it can be scary to express your true self, but it’s the best way to create a successful meaningful life, and it’s easier to do than you think.  A few years ago a friend and I went to the Mojave Desert.  We were astonished to find all these wild-looking Joshua trees around us.  Their branches were bent in a million different directions.  After inspecting several of them closely, my traveling companion and I came to the conclusion that no two were...

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True Calling Tip: What are You Naturally Good At?

Posted by on November 4, 2013 in True Self | 10 comments

True Calling Tip: What are You Naturally Good At?

Many of us don’t “hear” our callings because our true talents and abilities come so naturally to us.  While I was writing this blog, I took a break to get a bagel at a local coffee shop.  As the guy behind the counter was ringing me up, one of his coworkers was trying to solve a crossword puzzle and called out, “Hey Jeff, what’s a four letter word for ‘harvest?’”  Without missing a beat, Jeff responded, “Reap.”  I was astonished.  He was a natural. It’s often difficult to discover what we’re...

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7 Questions to Find Your True Calling

Posted by on October 30, 2013 in True Self | 12 comments

7 Questions to Find Your True Calling

The last few blogs have explored how we’ve been conditioned to be like everyone else and play roles that don’t necessarily suit us. Several of you have asked, “Well, how do I find my true calling then, Michelle?” The answer is simple. Figure out what makes your heart sing. It’s difficult for many of us to believe we are unique—that we have our own distinct paths in life—because we’re so used to thinking alike.   The next seven blogs will ask thought-provoking questions that will help you discern your special qualities...

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9 Tips to Tap into Your True Self on Halloween

Posted by on October 22, 2013 in True Self | 9 comments

9 Tips to Tap into Your True Self on Halloween

Halloween is right around the corner.  Sure, you could go as the usual suspects—pirates and vampires—but why not do something different this year?  Instead of disguising yourself as someone else, grab the opportunity to break out of a worn-out role and express your true self. Let’s be honest.  Most of us don’t answer our true callings and go after our heartfelt dreams because we’re scared.  What if we crash and burn?  And by that I mean, we lose all our friends, our money runs out and we end up homeless, unable...

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Why is Your True Calling So Hard to Hear?

Posted by on October 16, 2013 in True Self | 8 comments

Why is Your True Calling So Hard to Hear?

In the last few blogs, we’ve investigated how playing a limiting role can hold you back from shining as your authentic self.  Your true calling is often hard to hear because it conflicts with who you think you are. In “The Wizard of Oz,” Dorothy described herself as “small and meek.”  Because of that belief, she didn’t realize she had the power to go home all along after landing in colorful Oz. Similarly Luke was already a “Skywalker” in the original “Star Wars” movie, but he didn’t know he could...

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Ditch Old Labels to Find Your True Vocation

Posted by on October 9, 2013 in True Self | 9 comments

Ditch Old Labels to Find Your True Vocation

Sometimes playing an old ill-fitting role can keep you from finding your true vocation. “Jeremy,” a new coaching client, was clearly miserable being a therapist. Even though his practice was growing, he was deeply tired of it.  He complained that his clients weren’t making that much progress in their lives.  What was worse, he was starting not to care.  I could see the exhaustion in his eyes.  He’d only been doing it for three years. I soon learned that Jeremy’s parents had argued often when he was a boy, and he’d...

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Talent Runs in a Family—You are Talented, Too

Posted by on October 2, 2013 in True Self | 15 comments

Talent Runs in a Family—You are Talented, Too

Do you ever wonder why you don’t seem to reach your goals, let alone your dreams? As we discussed last week, you could be playing an old family role that holds you back without even knowing it! I encountered this sort of block in the first creativity workshop I ever taught. Bill was a top notch journalist who wanted to become a fiction writer.  He already wrote for a living, so you’d think it would be easy for him to write fiction, but it wasn’t.  He struggled.  The words just wouldn’t come.  The cause of the problem eluded me...

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How False Family Roles Muffle Your True Calling

Posted by on September 25, 2013 in True Self | 32 comments

How False Family Roles Muffle Your True Calling

Many of us can’t hear our true calling—and, hence, be our real selves—because of old family dynamics and belief systems.  In my workshops, I’ve found that the main reason people don’t get what they want in life is because they’re still acting out some worn-out family role that doesn’t fit who they truly are.    For example, when I was 13 years old I was fascinated by “Debby” and “Deenie,” identical twins in my junior high school. They had long blond hair, tanned athletic bodies, and the whitest teeth I’d...

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