Be Your Own Superhero blog
Welcome to my blog!
It’s pretty awesome, I know. But enough chitchat. We’re on a mission!
If you are experiencing a personal or professional crisis, deciding where to go next in life, feeling stuck, or simply want to be more creative, this blog’s for you.
You were born with a unique creative gift that no one else in the world can express like you. Your innate skills and passions are your superpowers. But because you’ve been pressured to conform to someone else’s idea of who you should be, you probably suffer from “Suppressed Superpower Syndrome.” I’m here to help you take your power back.
Using psychology, music, and workshop success stories, I will help you shake up your self-limiting beliefs, discover your unique talents and skills, build the courage to go after your dreams, persist through setbacks, and reach your full creative potential in work and life.
Yeah, it’s a big promise, I know, but I think we can do it! Don’t you?
I have a good track record. And my “Be Your Own Superhero” blog was chosen by Lifehack as One of 15 Brilliant Website That Will Inspire And Change Your Life.
Why I Know What I’m “Talking” About
Years ago when I was a psychology professor, I felt deeply empty, despite my success. I loved my students but the truth was, I wanted to sing rock-n-roll.
“Ridiculous,” a voice that sounded a lot like my mother’s screamed inside my head. For one, it would mean I had wasted four years at Princeton getting my PhD in psychology. For another, I was too old. How could I change now, wasn’t it too late?
I kept thinking about how happy my students were whenever I gave them permission to be their true selves. Within a year, I left my solid teaching position to follow my dream to be a rock star! My songs have been on the charts, and I’ve led creativity workshops for 20 years and helped thousands of participants realize their dreams, too.
Now that’s my superpower. What’s yours? Not sure? That’s OK – that’s what this blog is for!
Are you ready to be your own superhero? Listen to this song to get pumped up for the challenge!
Today is National Superhero Day and, of course, I’ll be the first one in line to see the latest Avengers movie. What I love about them, and Justice League, too, is that these superheroes use their superpowers to work together to solve problems they cannot solve alone.
To me, real-life superheroes are people who find the courage to try to overcome physical and emotional barriers to lead rich, fullfilling lives. Recently, I sang at the Ronald McDonald House at Stanford to inspire critically-ill children to find hope in their...
Halloween is right around the corner. Sure, you could go as the usual suspects — pirates and vampires — but why not do something different this year? Instead of disguising yourself as someone else, grab the opportunity to break out of an old pattern and express your true spooktacular self.
Let’s be honest. Most of us don’t answer our life callings and go after our heartfelt dreams because we’re scared. What if we crash and burn?
Psychologist Rollo May said, “The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice, it’s...
According to Charles Whitfield, author of “Healing the Child Within,” 80 to 95% of us grew up in dysfunctional families. Don’t worry, at least you know you’re not alone! You also have options.
Thanksgiving can be a truly joyful time of year, but it can also be stressful for those of us with families who push our buttons. Many blogs offer tips for how to make room for extra food in the fridge and not undercook the turkey to curb anxiety.
Instead here are three creative ways to reduce stress and increase well-being by handling...
Are you feeling stuck or unsure of what to do next with your life? Odds are your true calling is right in front of you but you miss it because you’re looking for it in the wrong place. All you need to do to “see” it clearly is change your perspective.
This was certainly true for “Maria,” a woman in her late 40s who took one of my first creativity workshops. Frankly, Maria scared the bejesus out of me. She stood about six feet tall, had fiery red hair, and seemed to be very angry about something. I noticed right...
Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. Many people remain single, some of us settle for less, and a few “lucky” folks thrive in good relationships. What makes the difference? In my experience, true love comes knocking at your door when you stop looking for it outside of yourself, and focus on accepting yourself for who you are—warts and all—instead.
Do you remember Gina from our “Embrace Your Inner Weirdo” blog? She was the frustrated receptionist who collected stuffed animals and watched “Beauty and the...
How do you know when the time is right to follow your dreams and ditch your day job? Our last blog discussed how it’s possible to stay employed AND find joy and contentment in your after-hour activities, and pursue your passions full-time once you retire. But sometimes you need to leap into the unknown to follow your heart.
Jack Topalian is a perfect role model. I met him while I was taking acting classes with the renowned Kay Kostopoulos and Marty Pistone at Stanford University. I knew there was something different about Jack right...
Even though the goal of this blog series is to help you find your true calling, the truth is that most people are too afraid to change. They have mouths to feed, bills to pay, and fear that if they follow their dreams, someone will get hurt. The old saying “leap and the net shall appear” does not comfort them. Because they hesitate to plunge into the unknown, they stay stuck. Can you relate?
Dan was such a case. A dignified-looking attorney, he came to my workshop because he felt something was missing from his life. He dearly loved...
How to Reach Your Dreams
Every year millions of us pull our collective hair out by making New Year’s Resolutions we don’t keep, as is evidenced by all the near-empty gyms in March. Rather than make goals, why not develop a good habit to help you reach your dreams? Any one of these can change your life.
1. Accept yourself for who you are, warts and all. Yes, I know I ended my Christmas blog with this thought, but it’s important enough to start with it again. Those little things you want to improve about yourself tend to...
The Christmas season can be a truly joyful time of year, but it can also be stressful for those of us spending the holidays with families who push our buttons.
According to Charles Whitfield, author of “Healing the Child Within,” 80 to 95% of us grew up in dysfunctional families. Well, pour yourself some eggnog, snuggle up under a warm comforter, and read on to learn how to keep from going crazy this Christmas.
Do you remember the island of misfit toys in the TV special “Rudolf the Red-Nosed Reindeer?” This sanctuary of unwanted...
How do you know when you’re following your true calling? Time disappears. No drugs necessary!
My True Calling Tip
Whenever I write a song, I close myself in my studio, pick up my guitar, and emerge several hours later feeling content and spaced-out. Typically, I don’t know what I did during that time—it’s just a glorious waking dream—but I usually have a recorder handy to capture it for me. A pleasing side effect of this experience is that I often write enough coherent pieces of music to put a song together later. But,...