7 Questions to Find Your True Calling
The last few blogs have explored how we’ve been conditioned to be like everyone else and play roles that don’t necessarily suit us. Several of you have asked, “Well, how do I find my true calling then, Michelle?” The answer is simple. Figure out what makes your heart sing.
It’s difficult for many of us to believe we are unique—that we have our own distinct paths in life—because we’re so used to thinking alike.
The next seven blogs will ask thought-provoking questions that will help you discern your special qualities and discover your true purpose in life. They are:
- What are you naturally good at?
- What makes you different from others?
- What did you love to do as a child?
- What fills you with passion and curiosity?
- What do your friends come to you for advice about?
- What makes time disappear for you?
- What would you do if money were no object?
If you find an answer in common to these questions, you will be well on your way to finding your true calling. Before we get into the nitty gritty details of each question, though, there are two things you need to be aware of:
1) Your true calling may not be the main way you earn money right away. Think of it as a way to find meaning and passion in your life. It doesn’t mean you can’t make big bucks down the line, but for now you need to be patient with it and let it develop naturally.
2) Your true calling may be made up of a combination of passions, skills, and interests… not just one “thang.” Look for the overlap. For example, I’m a singer/songwriter, speaker, and writer, but I use all my modes of expression to help people reach their true potential.
By reading the next few stories and answering the questions at the end of each blog, you will gain the information you need to discover the true you. One warning, though. I’ve noticed that some people in my workshops get scared when they start to connect the dots and realize what makes them special. Remember, following the hero’s path to your true self always takes courage.
There must be a hitch, they insist. “How will I be able to pay my bills if I follow my heart?” one person in my workshops always asks. “My husband will leave me if I do what I really want,” another insists. “I’m not like you, I don’t have any talents,” the woman with the Brooklyn accent sharply reminds me. “I can’t just run off and do what I please, that’s being irresponsible,” another voice calls out from the back of the room. The upshot of my participants’ comments is that being one’s true self will lead to disaster somehow.
Well, I have found quite the opposite to be true. Story after story in this next set of blogs will show you how these same doubtful workshop participants found their true callings by following their hearts. Far from crashing and burning, they all thrived in their new lives. Stay tuned and find out how you can do it, too.
In the meantime, which questions above speak to you the most? For me it was the first two. I was surprised to learn that music came naturally to me and not others while I was studying psychology in graduate school at Princeton. The timing seemed all wrong; I was about to become a professor. What about you? What true path may you be ignoring right now that’s calling to you?